What To Do When Life Hits You Right Between The Eyes

Stress.  It happens to all of us.  But there’s a difference between life’s little everyday stressors such as what’s for dinner or how to come up with money for a bill, and the major stressors that suck the life out of you such as going through a divorce, an unexpected illness or death of a loved one, or going through foreclosure.

The fact is the major stressors that happen to us usually happen unexpectedly and at the most inconvenient times possible.  And these bad boys aren’t choosy.  They happen to everyone – business owner or not.

You’re running your business – writing booklets, solidifying deals, lining up new prospects – when suddenly BAM!  Life rears its ugly side.  What can you do?  How do you cope?  How do you keep your business moving forward when your life is falling apart?

I’ve had my share of major stressors just like everyone else.  I speak from experience when I tell you it’s tough to keep the business on track when life throws you an unexpected curve.   Suddenly you don’t care about the business.  You’re numb – stunned or shocked or in pain.  All you can think about is the current problem.  You can’t give your attention to anything else.  Yet if you don’t get out of your own head you can’t get past it, find a solution or heal, and move on.

Here’s how I have dealt with the big stressors.  I hope some of these ideas will help you.

– Talk to someone.  This could be a friend, a doctor or some other professional.  It doesn’t matter.  Talking about it with someone else will help to give you another viewpoint on your situation.  The other person may have an answer you never thought of.

Not long ago I found myself talking with my naturopath about a situation I had with a close family member.  The discussion had nothing to do with my appointment, but I was under a great deal of stress and my doctor was interested.  It turned out he had the perfect solution – one I hadn’t thought of – and I left his office very grateful for his willingness to listen and offer his advice.  And there was no extra charge!

– Take whatever time you need.  Some things can’t be rushed.  When a loved one dies, you need some time to grieve.  If you have lost your home, you need time to find another one and move.   There are times when you just can’t work.  You need to take care of you.

I was in a car accident just over a year ago and I needed some time to heal from it.  I took a few days off from my work because my head was hurting so much I couldn’t sit at my computer.  I didn’t stress about what I wasn’t getting done.  I just focused on feeling better and did what was necessary to make that happen, and within a few days I was able to sit at my desk again.

– Get whatever help you need.  I mentioned professional help above.  Sometimes that’s in the form of a doctor or chiropractor.  Sometimes it’s charitable help.  Sometimes it’s government help or the help of a lawyer.

When I was hurt in that car accident my chiropractor was my best friend!  I couldn’t have functioned on a daily basis without his care.

– Try to think beyond the problem.  Often when we’re faced with a stressful situation or ordeal we replay it over and over in our mind and we ask ourself why this happened.  We get mentally stuck.  Instead, try to see what’s next for you or think about a future time when this problem might not affect you as much.  Often this helps you process the fact that this moment or situation will pass, and as you see a future beyond this point in time you can begin to move toward it.  You’ll start feeling like doing things again.

– Pray.  If you believe in a higher power prayer can help relieve some of your stress.

– Find others who are or have been in the same situation.  You are not alone.  Some else somewhere is or has been through what you are going through.  If you don’t know of anyone personally, get online and do a Google search.  Discovering how others have coped with your situation or seeing what action they took to make it better can give you hope.

Doing the things above always helps me find solutions and get back on track.

What do you do when life comes at you head on?  Is there anything you can add to this list?  Let me know in the comments section!

To your riches!

Kim Hillman

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